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New Beginnings

Hello friends! Guess what – as much as I love Houston, I am back in the Midwest again! This time I am in Ann Arbor, Michigan for my full-time MBA! So much has happened over the last six months – I bid farewell to friends and delicious food in Houston, went back to China for 1.5 months’ vacation, and started my MBA orientation this past week.

Although my parents visited me in the US over the past five years, I have not set foot in China for that long! I was extremely happy to meet up with high school and college friends who I have not seen for years. I traveled with my parents to northwestern China (Xinjiang and Qinghai) and experienced culture a lot different from where I grew up.

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I just finished my MBA orientation this past week and it was a lot of fun! The keynote speaker was Jia Jiang, who shared with us the lessons he learned from 100 days of Rejection. You might have watched his Krispy Kreme donut youtube video before. His TEDx talk was almost as good as his keynote speech at orientation, 😉

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As part of the Orientation, I participated in the Reflected Best Self Workshop, where I read stories written by friends, coworkers, and managers on when they have seen me at my best. The intention of the workshop is to use the feedback to incorporate my best self into my work and my life. I want to say thank you to all those who invested time in writing the stories for me. I am blown away by the amount of details they remembered, some of which I could not even recall. Reading these stories is so empowering and even moves me to tears. Happy tears, :).

Next week I will be competing in Ross Impact Challenge with my MBA classmates and traveling to Eastern Europe for 10 days afterwards. The first semester of my MBA starts after the Labor Day, so I will be back to school and recruiting again! I cannot guarantee frequent update, but I will try to share some great links of resources if I come across any.

Lastly, if you are interested in attending Ross and becoming my future classmates, feel free to look for Ross admission events around the world. I have the link set up for you already! Go Blue!

2017 Blogging Goals

Happy 2017 everyone! This post marks the 20th post (not counting the two “About” pages)! When starting the blog in July 2015, I did not expect to rediscover my interests in writing. I initially only intended to use it as a platform to mentor more international students and share my successes and pitfalls. At the beginning, I had a lot of doubts, because I was not sure what traction my blog would receive and if it would be worth the effort. As I wrote more, I found myself enjoying the process so much that I am now simply writing to stay happy. 🙂 My love for words is getting so strong that I plan to blog with a stronger focus on writing quality in 2017.

Before covering the 2017 blogging goals, I want to do a quick recap of the posts in 2016. A few highlights in 2016 include collaborating with Jessica of Pretty Prints and Paper when we shared each other’s posts that centered on job search and receiving a shout-out from my college professor on Twitter and Linkedin (I follow his Phil’s Career Blog religiously). The most popular post is Podcast and Small Talk, probably because this topic applies to both students and young professionals. In 2017, I hope to include more topics for these audiences. My personal favorites are Networking Hack #2 and FOMO and 20 Slots. Even though neither fares as well in readership, both topics involve important discoveries for me, especially the latter. Maybe I will rewrite them someday using a different approach.

For 2017, I have set three blogging goals, in content, critique, and publishing frequency. First of all, be a better storyteller. In the past, I wrote a lot of practical “how-to” posts on networking, interviewing, and finding job opportunities. They were logical with concrete actions. On a few writings I shared with my friends, one feedback I received is that the words missed some passion. This year, I will write more personal stories that read less like a manual and are more emotionally engaging.

Second, get more writing critique. Whenever I ask someone else to read my writing, I always learn a lot.  Apart from the “emotion” feedback, another feedback is that I often write longer sentences with independent and dependent clauses, making it harder to grasp the ideas. I definitely agree with such observation. I sometimes even catch myself do the same thing when talking and end up losing my train of thought. In 2017, I intend to solicit feedback more frequently and focus on not only content but also sentence structure and grammar. Through Googling, I find that Houston has quite a few writing groups that meet regularly to provide critique. I plan to check out these meetings sometime!

Third, write at least 12 posts. I published 9 posts in 2015 and 10 posts in 2016. I took a writing break from March through May in 2016, partially due to some loss of writing motivation. Fortunately, I found renewed energy after reading Elizabeth Gilbert‘s Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, the story and details of which I will share at a post this year. As much as I enjoy blogging, it is only a hobby and I have other competing priorities. As a result, I am changing my publishing commitment from every other week to monthly. So far I am one post behind!

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Thanks to blogging, I have developed the habit of constantly evaluating writing topics, which makes me more self-aware and reflective. I do not think I will have any problem picking 12 topics for 2017, from the growing list of 15+ draft ideas. A lot of the ideas involve personal stories, so it will be a fun challenge to take on this year. In the end, I would like to thank you all for the support you gave me since 2015 summer. Thank you for signing up on email subscriptions. Thank you for sharing my posts with others. Thank you for providing me feedback, leaving comments, and inspiring me with more ideas. I am super excited for 2017!

Stand Upon the Shoulders of Giants

My mentee from my undergraduate school reached out to me for advice on choosing majors. The first question I asked was “Have you signed up for the Future Fright Week sessions in the fall?” After explaining to her what Future Fright Week sessions are (workshops aiming to educate underclassmen on majors and the associated career paths), I told her that I was glad that she asked me (That’s what mentors are for!) but that “I am not the only resource you have. Take advantage of all that are available to you”.

After that exchange, I had an epiphany – it is very important to be resourceful! How do you define “resourceful”? Jeff Bezo considered it the most important characteristic he looked for in a wife, “a woman who could get me out of a Third World Prison“. In all seriousness, I define “resourceful” as knowing how to identify and engage resources to help you. In the world of international students, being resourceful could include knowing what workshops to attend to polish up certain skills, finding articles to read to stay informed of the industry trends, involving outside assistance (academic advisors, career advisors, professors, alumni connections, mentors, strangers on Quora.com, etc).  Isaac Newton once said “If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants”. You do not need to handle all the problems alone. If you could ask an expert and solve a problem in 20 minutes rather than spend more than 2 hours figuring it out yourself, why not raise your hand? Although the outcome might be the same for both scenarios, you could save a lot more time to deal with even bigger challenges.

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Speaking of giants, I want to give a big shout out to Michelle Moylan at University of Minnesota who led the initiative to build a new Career Website for Minnesota’s International Students and Alumni. I am so excited about it that I wrote this post right away. In her own words, “On this page you will find information to help you with US job searching (including lists of companies who have hired U of MN international students and lists of what companies in what states and cities sponsor H1B visas), with non-US job searching, applying to graduate school and more.” Furthermore, if you have suggestions for additional content, you could email Michele at moyl0002@umn.edu. By doing so, you are not only getting your own questions answered, but also doing a favor for the rest of the audience. Michelle also spearheaded the International Careers Facebook page, which shares the latest relevant articles and provides updates on various program initiatives for international students.

If you are an international student, drop everything and add the two sites as your favorites! Even if you do not attend University of Minnesota, great resources have no boundaries thanks to the power of the Internet. If you are not an international student, I hope this could be a reminder that we have more resource than we think. It just takes a little digging and the courage to say “I don’t know about this. Can you help me?”

I have been aspiring to be “a giant” for my fellow readers. Subscribe to my blog by putting down your email address (quick painfree process!) so you will receive notifications when I share new learnings and reflections!

P.S. On a different note, I was a little bummed that the readership stats on my last post “Email from a Blog Reader – FOMO and 20 Slots” did not fare as well as I expected. I could probably write it a bit more concisely. Regardless, it described my big learning in 2015 that I found a sense of direction to some extent. One of my favorite bloggers on Medium Bo Ren also mentioned “FOMO” in her article on “maximizer” and “satisficer”. I highly recommend.

Email from a Blog Reader – FOMO and 20 Slots

Last month, I received an email from a blog reader:

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It’s so fun to receive emails from the readers. Sometimes I wonder who are reading the blog apart from my circle of friends. Now I could get to know the readers at a more personal level. Thus, I am creating a series of posts to answer questions from the blog readers on college and career development. I will try my best to respond to the questions as they come up. Readers could also find all the prior posts by clicking the tag “#HiSijie”, which includes the referenced article “Email from a Mentee”.

Now back to business – I recommend the reader consider the following:

  • What is the minimum required GPA for your desired career path? Is high GPA a requirement? Consulting and Investment Banking usually place a bigger emphasis on GPA. What’s more, if the GPA is lower, do you have some impressive experience on your resume that will make up for it?
  • Seek help from academic advisors on managing class load and talk to professors and TAs about the courses you are struggling with;
  • Prioritize – think about your daily schedule and what you are involved in. Are there any events that will not help your short-term goal? I wrote a post last year for the Class of 2019 that highlights the importance to explore various majors but eventually develop a concentration. The great thing about college is that you are never short of classes to attend or events to participate in, but the drawback is that you cannot do everything within the four years.

The challenge of balancing multiple priorities is no stranger to anyone – we juggle projects at work/school, decide whether to work on a presentation deck for an extra hour or to go home and relax, and make plans for the weekend. In my spare time, I go through many decisions such as: after work, go to a yoga class or attend a networking happy hour? On a Saturday night, stay in or go out with friends? Do I want to take this class on Coursera or should I invest more time building and writing my blog? … The struggle is real – everything looks super fun, but time is limited. As a result, the term “FOMO” (“fear of missing out”) is coined to describe the anxiety that if you miss an event you will miss out on something great.

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The article that reduced my FOMO and changed my 2015 is called “Warren Buffett’s ‘20 Slot’ Rule”. It describes that if we are only allowed to make 20 financial investments in a lifetime (“20 slots”), we are forced to think more thoroughly and end up making better decisions. The philosophy is to direct all the energy and attention to fewer tasks and focusing on mastering them. The article was a trigger for me to reflect what my “20 slots” are. At the time, I have been sitting on the idea of blogging for a while. I wanted to help international students succeed but I could not speak at on-campus workshops at University of Minnesota as I used to after moving to Houston. To replace my physical absence, I planned to use the blog to record the lessons. Upon determining mentoring students was definitely among the “20 slots”, I overcame my fear of imperfection and started writing. Thanks to the Internet, the reader base has expanded from international students at University of Minnesota to students around the US. I also have opportunities to introduce new topics instead of repeating myself at different workshops on how to effectively network. More importantly, I have rediscovered my love for writing. Until sixth grade, my dream job was to become a writer. Therefore, I am putting my writing skills to use again.

After picking up this blogging project, I set my mind to prioritize ruthlessly. I turned down some invites to social gatherings. Instead I spent quality “me” time training for a half-marathon and working on blog posts at home. Of course, a glass of wine helps when I am drafting posts! 🙂 My priorities shifted the end of last November when I chose to spend more time training for the half-marathon and hanging out with friends over the holidays. I scheduled myself on a writing break and did not resume writing until January.

One trick that keeps me on track is to develop a routine based on the order of importance and stick to it. For example, I dedicate one weekend evening writing new post so I know when to get into the writing zone. The routine could also apply to weekly tasks, such as buying groceries, working out, etc. I usually like to shop at the same grocery store (Trader Joe’s, of course!) and practice yoga at the same studio. I have to admit that it is definitely fun to try something new, such as going to a new grocery store or a new gym. However, since they are lower on my priority list, I would rather stay at one location so that I do not waste time figuring out where all the grocery is or who the best teacher is. I do realize that change of routine could be a good thing, so I am working on mindfully weighing the pros and cons before jumping to conclusion.

It has been a year since I read the article that motivated me to reflect on my “20 slots” and to start writing. I have less “FOMO” and become a lot more grounded when making decisions, because I know better about what matters the most to me. Blogging is one of the best decisions I have made because writing makes me happier. I will continue writing and hold onto the dream that I will become a writer one day as my 10-year old self dreamt.

What are your “20 slots” and what are you going to do with them?

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Have a question for me? Feel free to email me at sijieand500words@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you!